Overcome Your Fear of Failure

The fear of failure is the biggest reason why people never reach their true potential, and the truth is everyone experiences it.

This fear is still prevalent even in my most successful, multi-millionaire clients.

Most people think that creating massive success will automatically give you a hall pass to "overcoming failure," but it doesn't make you immune.

In fact, massive success can perpetuate the fear, as now you have "something to lose."

Furthermore, stepping into "new levels" typically brings old (subconscious) fears back, usually manifesting as procrastination, overthinking, overwhelm, etc.,

Logically, since you know you have created success you overlook these blaring subconscious self-sabotaging symptoms, labelling them as “normal”.

This is exactly why the plateau gets created because you want to stay in the “comfort zone”, whether you realize it or not.

So today, we are going to talk about specific strategies to building a stronger immunity around this pesky subconscious mindset block that keeps you from your fullest potential.

So first, let’s talk about DUALITY.

On one side, you want more money, success, happiness...

But on your way there, fear, doubt, failure, and rejection will always exist.

You must learn to accept this.

KEY #1: The key to success which requires crushing the fear of failure to take swift action consistently, is how well you can toggle between the two because (manage duality). 

As you all know, what you focus on expands.

So the more your brain is dialed towards subconscious survival (anxiety, worrying, stress, etc.), the less mental capacity you have to maximize your focus and productivity moving towards your goals more effortlessly.

And if you are like many of my clients who start with me, you have so much mental friction, trying with brute force to move towards positivity and confidence...

But it's a massive internal battle, almost as if you have two minds .. it’s exhausting.

And although you can still create success, it’s a miserable, stressful process that never ends. It also zaps flow states guaranteed.

So imagine just being able to flip the switch effortlessly and get back into massive, empowered action fast?

Hypnosis can train your mind to easily minimize the "negative side of duality" effortlessly.

You can reprogram your brain to do so. Turn off survival. Turn on control.

You must be able to shift from disempowerment to empowerment instantly. 

Empowerment leads to convicted action.

Disempowerment leads to being stuck.   

You can only choose one in each moment.  

Your power to choose, is your life force behind massive success.

Now, here is the next important step to make this instant shift…

KEY #2: YOU HAVE TO GO DEEPER.

Most people’s brains stop at:

• What if I fail?

• What if it doesn't work?

• What if I lose everything?

That thought leaves you in a negative, disempowered state because your default mode is to just accept this as truth, which is why you are stuck.

Then you stop = self-sabotage.

The cycle of stopping before you start begins.

Which leads to the frustration you all know very well, as you know you are capable of so much more.

So how do you go DEEPER?

I want you to think about the WORST-CASE SCENARIO. Your legit rock bottom, armageddon mode circumstance. 

Really look deep & ask yourself: WHAT IF I DO FAIL?

Some fears I hear from clients include:

• You may feel like a joke to your friends and family, proving them right; they always knew you wouldn't make it, and it's your burning desire to prove them wrong. The embarrassment is too much to bear.

• Your spouse may see you as weak or a loser (especially prevalent in my male clients).

• You will "lose" money, feeling irresponsible for making “bad decisions” (Side bar: Even if you were to lose money by taking the calculated risk, you will, in fact, earn it again. Get your mind out of scarcity; there is always more to be made.)

Trust what comes to mind.

Take inventory of the emotions. It may be fear, anger, shame, guilt...and so on. It may even feel like the world is ending, so much pressure & stress …

Now answer this.

Will the zombie apocalypse start tomorrow? Is the world, in fact, ending?

The answer is probably NO. You will be fine.

I often think to myself, if I were to lose EVERYTHING tomorrow would I be okay? The answer is YES. Would it be shit? YES Would it be hard? YES

Will the world end? NO

I have gotten comfortable with that idea because deep down, I know I will always find a way.

So get in bed with this idea & normalize it.

You have to diffuse the mental monster in the closet of your mind or else the subconscious fear will hold you back. Making it bigger than it needs to be. Blowing it out of proportion.

This happens because FAILURE IS PROGRAMMED AS PAIN.

As a child, you learned that:

• Failure is bad, shameful, embarrassing.

• Failure comes with consequences, verbal or physical abuse.

• Failure comes with ridicule and rejection, that something is wrong with you.

Remember your brain is very smart; it will do anything to protect you.

No one moves towards pain. Most will do anything to avoid it.

But you need to learn to override your subconscious because the truth is...

Failure is not any of those things. It's not associated with your identity.

It's just an outcome. Data.

The real reason you fear failure is because you have a limiting belief about yourself that makes you feel like sh*t …That you are a loser, not good enough, asshole etc. This limiting belief keeps you stuck AF.

So when you feel bad and disempowered. You don’t move.

I help my clients reprogram the root identity surrounding failure and rejection to neutral or even positive. Your identity needs to be rewired correctly (reprogrammed) so you don’t create mental blocks that stop you, on your road to next level success.

Otherwise the pressure to be perform with perfection, will mentally and physically drain and crush you. It's a miserable road to success, and many can't handle it long term and end up quitting.

This needs to be reprogrammed with hypnosis. Dissociate from pain. Rewire pleasure.

Now, we have one more important loop to close.

KEY #3: See the bigger picture. Zoom out. Clearly map out the paths of failure & success.

So here is what you need to think through …

Scenario one: If you do nothing, nothing happens.

Scenario two: If you do something, there are two avenues:

Avenue 1: Yes, you may fail, and all your "worst" fears come true (which, by the way, are just feeling bad about yourself ultimately)

Avenue 2: You create a new opportunity for something new to happen (next steps, clarity, success).

So you see, you have to take the chance if you want to create a new outcome.

So each time, you feel stuck, go through these 3 different avenues. The next step will become clear.

Don't let yourself be held back anymore. By an old learned memory. A stuck emotional state. That the thought of failure triggers you into a disempowerment, impacting your decisions to unlock and reach your greatest potential and reach your next level.

So the truth about failure?

The reality is that you will be fine, and you will move on.

Isn't that right?

You have nothing to lose (maybe some money, but hey, you got to take the calculated risk to play to win).

Only everything to gain (the potential for massive upside).

But you have to take the big move and know that behind that move, you've got what it takes to make it happen.

This goes deep into your belief system (ready to reprogram this? APPLY HERE), and you must be so internally anchored that nothing can rock you.

No matter what.

In summary, there is nothing to be fearful of in reality. It’s all created in your head.

Failure is part of success. 

Failure is not a big deal. 

But it is a big deal if you choose to do nothing.

As always, a quote to ponder:

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